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Sunday, October 30, 2016
Why Recovery?
Written October 21, 2016: Though I didn't write this today, I wanted it to be the first post for this blog because it tells the true desires of my heart. The things I am fighting for. The things we are all fighting for. In the coming days I will also be adding my story here as well as the freedom foods I am working on conquering. Feel free to contact me at any time :)
Oct 21, 2016
I figured the best way to start this blog is the same way I
started my true recovery just a few weeks ago. To sit down and write out
exactly what I wanted in life. The things I dreamed of that ED robbed me of and
so many days blinded me to so I would stay fixated on weights, calories,
numbers, and food. ED made me nothing but a number, my dreams nothing but a
distant memory, and made my whole world about being thin. Then my whole world
came tumbling down, and before I knew it I was a skeletal weight, being forced
on feeding tubes, having seizures, heart failure, kidney failure, liver
failure, and then having a doctor look me straight in the eyes and tell me if
he didn’t remove ¾ of my large intestines (ie, a surgery I most likely would
not survive) I would be dead within the hour. I had no one next to me, I was
states away from my family, I had spent 10 months in and out of hospitals
missing birthdays, Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s, Mother’s and Father’s day,
graduation, and just life in general. All to be a lower number on the scale. A
number no one but me knew and a number I was ashamed to let anyone know about
(because the true Jessica inside knew it would break their hearts). So I want
to start this blog remembering why I am starting this blog, recovery, and why I
NEED TO and HAVE TO kick ED’s ass every day. One moment, one bite, one breathe
at a time. (btw these are in no particular order and will probably be added to
as I continue to recover….and if I accomplish any of them I will date it)
I have to recover because I want to:
·
Go to thanksgiving and focus on family not food.
To focus on conversation not calories. To eat what is served instead of
bringing my own pre-portioned food as I have the past 10 years. To be able not
to just watch people eat the food I made, but have it with them
·
Go to family occasions without thinking about or
stressing about whether I have exercised
·
To have a dessert spontaneously because I want
it without having to plan days in advanced how to fit it into my caloric intake
for the day
·
To eat out at restaraunts and trust the
nutrition they give me. To enjoy the company without stressing the calories and
whether I need to round them up
·
To eat a cupcake and fully enjoy the experience
without stressing about how I am going to fit my assumed 700 calories for the
cupcake into my intake (a number I came up with because I know it’s most likely
too high)
·
To wake up in the morning, hold my
husband/kids/dog in my arms, and savor the moment instead of worrying about
what my weight will be and if I will be able to eat
·
To go on trips with my boyfriend and us be able
to go out to eat
·
To be able to go on trips and enjoy them not
because it’s a chance to restrict but because it is a chance to discover new
things
·
To go to the grocery store and buy whatever
items are on sale, not just my safe and healthy options
·
To get married and have my wedding cake without
having to stress all day about it
·
To truly be happy on my birthday
·
To eat my easter candy from this year and to
have candy on Halloween
·
To have Christmas cookies because that’s just
what humans do
·
To lick my fingers or the bowl when cooking
without worrying about the calories
·
To allow myself to try a bite of something or
try a sample without having to rush to my calorie app to add 100 calories just
in case
·
To inspire others to recover before they get to
the rock bottom I had to
·
To write a blog with meaning not just surface
level photos of what I eat and the same recurring theme of feeling too fat
·
To hug my family members without them crying
because they can feel my bones
·
To make my Mimi proud so she can show me off to
her Sunday school
·
To have a fried green tomato with my Mimi
·
To have a relationship with my brother again
·
To have my brother walk me down the aisle at
church not in a casket, but in a wedding dress
·
(this one I am ashamed of) To fully engage in
taking communion without worrying about the calories or about getting the
smallest cracker
·
To have what I want even if I don’t know the
calories in it without having to hide it and spit it out (another shameful
secret of anorexia called chew and spit)
·
To spend a whole year of holidays at home not in
hospitals
·
To prove the docs/nurses at St. Mary’s who
believed in me right and the ones at Stanford who said I would never recover
wrong
·
To be able to share my testimony of recovery at
church
·
To laugh because I am happy, not because I am
holding back tears
·
To go to spin class again
·
To allow my mom to be proud when she talks about
me, not scared it’s the last time she will be able to talk about me in the
present tense
·
To work with children as a social worker
·
To horseback ride
·
To be able to say satan tried to beat me down,
but I got back up
·
To be able to say I am recovered
·
To go to my boyfriend’s families house and eat
instead of us having to plan visits around how to avoid the topic of food and
eating
·
To run a 5K and (eventually) a half marathon
·
To have meaning in my life
·
To be okay with not having my scale with me
·
To be able to eat packaged items without having
to have a food scale to measure them
·
To eat any fruit or vegetable I want without
weighing it, judging it, or worrying about the calories in it
·
To eat real peanut butter not the powdered kind
·
To be nuts about nuts again
·
To be able to eat something I cook/bake
·
To learn how to grill
·
To go to a crawfish boil with my brother
·
To be able to look my husband in the eyes and
say “He/She is ours” as I gaze into the eyes of the child I just birthed,
instead of having to look into his eyes and say because I refused to eat for
most of my life, I can never have your child…or any child for that matter
·
To be able to ride a roller coaster without
having to worry if my heart will give out
·
To go to the doctor without fearing if they will
put me in the hospital
·
To go to a job interview for waitressing,
nannying, cooking, or being a social worker without having to worry if they
will be able to tell if I have an eating disorder and if they will refuse to
hire me because of it
·
To be able to go out to eat with co-workers or
my boss instead of having to say I am sick or already ate or whatever when
invited to luncheons
·
To be able to eat at social work conferences
instead of having to bring my own food or restrict all day
·
To go to a treatment center to share my story
and journey, not to check myself back in
·
To be all God created me to be instead of just a
shell of a human being
·
To take medicine without worrying about the
calories
·
To chew gum without worrying about the calories
·
To have diet soda and sweeteners without
worrying about the calories
·
To be able to go to drive-thrus or restaraunts
because it is convenient, instead of being stranded with no options
·
To take my mom to Disney World
·
To save up enough money to buy my mom a condo on
the beach
·
To be able to go back to my alma matar UGA and
see my old professors and tell them of all the good things I am doing with the
knowledge and faith they gave me, instead of having to avoid eye contact so
they don’t see I’ve relapsed
·
To go to study groups and potlucks because they
are fun, not avoid them because they involve food
·
To do the MS150 with my brother
·
To stop hurting people and starting healing
people
·
To be something other than just an anorexic
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